Questions & answers
Question: Do I need to do anything special before a Tantric Massage or do I need to bring anything?
Answer: A Tantric Massage is just like any other massage. You want to have some food in your stomach but you don't want to have just eaten a big heavy meal and you don't want to have an empty stomach either. A hot shower or bath is great to relax the muscles and mind before a session but if that is not convenient for you, it is not needed. Wear or bring with you warm loose clothing for after your session. You won't want to put on business clothes or anything tight or constricting, and you will want to keep your body nice and warm.
Q: I am nervous about coming, may I bring a friend?
A: Of course you may. It's actually pretty common and there are a few options. 1. If both of you are comfortable with it, your friend may sit in the room during your session. 2. They may sit in the waiting room during your session. 3. They can drop you off, first come in and see that it's a professional set up and safe, and then go somewhere near by to hang out until your session is over. Redlands has a nice historic downtown, a couple of great shopping centers, and many coffee shops.
Q: Do you have a shower there?
A: Yes, you are welcome to shower here before or after your session. I also have a deep soaking tub and I offer spa treatments like body scrubs, mini facials, clay body treatments and mineral soaks. Please look at my Services Offered page for all services I offer.
Q: Can Tantric Massage help with infertility?
A: I have successfully worked with many women who had infertility issues using Acupressure, Massage, Aroma Therapy, herbs and exercises for over 20 years now, but I have found that incorporating those with Tantric Massage is by far the most powerful. I have not worked with a woman who was not able to conceive with her partner. Everyone is different but the average time is 1 - 4 months depending on how often they come as well as many other factors which I would be happy to discuss with you.
Q: Is a Tantric massage with a yoni massage safe during pregnancy?
A: Not only is it safe but it is extremely beneficial. Please read my page http://www.sensualtigerholisticarts.com/pregnancy--yoni-massage.html for more information.
Q: Do I have to be completely nude?
A: You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable doing. Of course if you want the Yoni massage then I will need that area free of clothing when it is time for the Yoni massage. If you are cold easily, shy or uncomfortable with your body then I will keep you covered with a sheet or blanket and only uncover the area I am working on at that time.
Q; Are you nude during the massage?
A; Yes, part of Tantra is becoming comfortable with the human body and understanding there is nothing wrong, bad or dirty about the Divine's greatest creation. Also it makes you more comfortable if you are not the only one nude and makes it less clinical. Some women find it more sensual for me to be nude and it allows them to feel more skin on skin contact. I can limit the amount of body to body contact, do what naturally happens or work in a way that there is a lot of body to body contact. The session is for you and you need to decide which you are most comfortable with and prefer. You will not hurt my feelings and I will not judge your decision either way. You are never locked into your decision. You are always welcome to change you mind either way at any time before or during your session.
Q: If you are nude may I touch you?
A: While I greatly enjoy anything sensual and any kind of touch, the intent of my sessions is for you to just receive and enjoy being pampered with all of the attention focused on you. So I use to avoid letting my clients touch me during their sessions, but I started getting a lot of feed back from women saying it would have added to their experience if they could have touched me. Some said it just felt natural to touch and that they felt like they had to hold back from what felt natural. Others said it would have added to their excitement and arousal. So once again it is your choice as long as you are not doing it because you feel you have to reciprocate, give back to me in anyway, or it doesn't stops me from giving you your massage. You are more than welcome to touch me anytime I am within reach anywhere on my body as long as you are doing it for your own enjoyment and comfort. If I move away it is only because I need to move to continue the massage and you are welcome to touch me again when I am within reach.
Q; I have never had an orgasm before. Will I have an orgasm?
A: There are several different reasons that can keep women for experiencing an orgasm. Some are easier to work with than others and some women may have a few if not several different reasons in why they have never experienced an orgasm. With the exception of an extreme physical condition that prevents you from having an orgasm I know that men and women are created to orgasm and with some retraining and work anyone should be able to orgasm on a regular basis. I cannot say how many session it will take and it is very likely you may have to do some work (exercises, stretches, mediation, masturbation, change of perceptions, and such) on your own at home to achieve your goals. I have had some women who have never had an orgasm before orgasm during their first sessions, others it has taken a few sessions and a few are still working on it. Everyone is different and we all have different reasons for our blockages whether they are physical, emotional, energy based, spiritual or multiple reasons. It will vary with each conditions, as well as how often you come for a session and what work you do on your own. If someone says they can make any woman orgasm the first time they are lying or ignorant of the human body. We are far too complex and often there are multiple physical, emotional, mental, energy spiritual or combinations of blockages preventing us from reaching orgasm. Anyone saying they can make a woman orgasm the first time is just trying massage naked women and has no clue of what Tantra or Holistic Health is all about. They are only doing it for their own pleasure and not for the benefit of the woman.
Q: If you are nude do you get an erection?
A: While I very much enjoy what I do, making women feel special like they are and giving them great pleasure, it is all about my clients and not me. I am very focused on what I do. I am constantly reading you and how you and your body is responding to the massage, feeling for and working with your Chakras and different energy systems, and thinking about what I need to do or work with next. So my brain and muscles pretty much has dibs on my blood supply, lol. However as your sensual and sexual energy expands my Chakras and sexual energy is often stimulated by your's and I do sometimes get an erection from that sexual energy building. Also I am very likely to get an erection if you are touching me for I very much enjoy being touched. Finally if you are very vocal and responsive to the session that is very arousing to me knowing that you are enjoying it that much. But once again I am not just standing their looking at your body and touching you. I am working very hard and I take great pride in my work and providing the best experience for you which requires me to be focused, feeling with my hands, energy and thinking a great deal. If I do not get an erection or it comes and goes please know it has nothing to do with whether I find you attractive or sexy. I truly love the female form in all of it's shapes, colors and ages. I think there is nothing sexier than a woman who is open and free with her sensuality and sexuality regardless of her physical appearance. I am aroused by all women who are open, free, expressive and positive about themselves. But this is for your pleasure and arousal, not mine.
Q: Do you ever ejaculate during a session?
A: No I do not. There are many reasons. The first being that the session is for you and not me. Next in Tantra and Traditional Chinese Medicine men should not ejaculate that often. I talk about that more on my page The Healing Power of the Orgasm http://www.sensualtigerholisticarts.com/the-healing-power-of-the-orgasm.html. Of course there are also health and safety reasons. I have reached orgasm (without ejaculating) during sessions. It is usually when my client reaches orgasm I can feel their energy flow threw me and I orgasm as well. Remember orgasm and ejaculating are two separate things. Some women have said that they feel bad for me that they get to orgasm and I don't. Please know that I am very content and satisfied with what I do and I have no need to ejaculate during or after a session. There are other reasons but this should be enough information for now.
Q: Do I need to be shaved below?
A: No your yoni does not need to be shaved. If you are very busy it does make it a little challenging but I just adjust a few of my techniques and it is not a problem. Trimmed or smooth is easiest but you prefer to be natural then be natural.
Q: What was the sound you were making over my yoni and what does it do?
A: It is called Toning. Each chakra has a certain vibration. I do a tone with the same vibration over each chakra. You should feel the vibration resonate through you. The vibration helps to open the chakra and release any blockages as well and build and stimulate the energy. Depending on time and what I feel you need sometimes I only tone over the root chakra (yoni)
Q: May my husband/boyfriend come and watch?
A: Yes, it is common for husbands or boyfriends to come with their wife or girlfriend and is a beautiful experience for both of you. I only have two rules. 1. The husband/boyfriend does not talk unless the wife/girlfriend talks to them. This session is for the women to relax and be pampered. If she wants to talk or ask him something that is fine but I don't want her being disturbed. 2. The Husbands/boyfriends can move around the room and watch as long as they don't interfere with the massage. With those two rules being followed it can be a great experience for both of you. It works very well if the husband/boyfriend sits at the head of the table during the yoni massage and can caress, kiss, hold and show affection to his wife/girlfriend. After the session you two can lay or sit together until she is ready to get up and get dressed.
Q: I want to bring my wife in for a Tantric Massage but I want it to be a surprise. How does that work?
A: It doesn't work. Surprising your wife or girlfriend with a Tantric Massage and her not knowing exactly what to expect doesn't go like you think it will or like it does in a porn movie. I know this from experience and I have never had one surprise session that went very well. Even if they are ok with the idea of receiving a Tantric Massage most of the session is awkward and uncomfortable for them because they don't know what is going on and what to expect. So over all it's not a great experience. If they have seen me before then yes a surprise session would be great, or maybe, just maybe if you can convince me that you two have a very open relationship and this kind of thing is common for you two. But if not what i suggest is the two of you sit down together and read through my website. Talk about it together and ask me any questions with of you have and share this experience together.
Q: I can be REALLY loud and even though you kept telling me I could make moan and make sounds I was too embarrassed that I would too be loud, say something inappropriate or scream?
A: There would have been nothing to be embarrassed about. Moaning, breathing heavy, talking dirty and even screaming is all completely natural. This is a safe place to let go of inhibitions. There is nothing you can say or do that I haven't done myself or had a lover or client do. Holding back and worrying about what someone else is going to think is one of the worse things you can do. It takes you from feeling to thinking and disconnects you from the experience and all of the sensations of pleasure. It also shifts your energy from pleasure to worry or fear which are opposite vibrations than the vibration of an orgasm. Finally sounds are a vibration and energy of their own. Making sounds helps to stimulate and move the energy. It is all part of the orgasm process. So I encourage you to moan, make any sounds, say anything and be as loud as your body and energy tells you to be.
Answer: A Tantric Massage is just like any other massage. You want to have some food in your stomach but you don't want to have just eaten a big heavy meal and you don't want to have an empty stomach either. A hot shower or bath is great to relax the muscles and mind before a session but if that is not convenient for you, it is not needed. Wear or bring with you warm loose clothing for after your session. You won't want to put on business clothes or anything tight or constricting, and you will want to keep your body nice and warm.
Q: I am nervous about coming, may I bring a friend?
A: Of course you may. It's actually pretty common and there are a few options. 1. If both of you are comfortable with it, your friend may sit in the room during your session. 2. They may sit in the waiting room during your session. 3. They can drop you off, first come in and see that it's a professional set up and safe, and then go somewhere near by to hang out until your session is over. Redlands has a nice historic downtown, a couple of great shopping centers, and many coffee shops.
Q: Do you have a shower there?
A: Yes, you are welcome to shower here before or after your session. I also have a deep soaking tub and I offer spa treatments like body scrubs, mini facials, clay body treatments and mineral soaks. Please look at my Services Offered page for all services I offer.
Q: Can Tantric Massage help with infertility?
A: I have successfully worked with many women who had infertility issues using Acupressure, Massage, Aroma Therapy, herbs and exercises for over 20 years now, but I have found that incorporating those with Tantric Massage is by far the most powerful. I have not worked with a woman who was not able to conceive with her partner. Everyone is different but the average time is 1 - 4 months depending on how often they come as well as many other factors which I would be happy to discuss with you.
Q: Is a Tantric massage with a yoni massage safe during pregnancy?
A: Not only is it safe but it is extremely beneficial. Please read my page http://www.sensualtigerholisticarts.com/pregnancy--yoni-massage.html for more information.
Q: Do I have to be completely nude?
A: You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable doing. Of course if you want the Yoni massage then I will need that area free of clothing when it is time for the Yoni massage. If you are cold easily, shy or uncomfortable with your body then I will keep you covered with a sheet or blanket and only uncover the area I am working on at that time.
Q; Are you nude during the massage?
A; Yes, part of Tantra is becoming comfortable with the human body and understanding there is nothing wrong, bad or dirty about the Divine's greatest creation. Also it makes you more comfortable if you are not the only one nude and makes it less clinical. Some women find it more sensual for me to be nude and it allows them to feel more skin on skin contact. I can limit the amount of body to body contact, do what naturally happens or work in a way that there is a lot of body to body contact. The session is for you and you need to decide which you are most comfortable with and prefer. You will not hurt my feelings and I will not judge your decision either way. You are never locked into your decision. You are always welcome to change you mind either way at any time before or during your session.
Q: If you are nude may I touch you?
A: While I greatly enjoy anything sensual and any kind of touch, the intent of my sessions is for you to just receive and enjoy being pampered with all of the attention focused on you. So I use to avoid letting my clients touch me during their sessions, but I started getting a lot of feed back from women saying it would have added to their experience if they could have touched me. Some said it just felt natural to touch and that they felt like they had to hold back from what felt natural. Others said it would have added to their excitement and arousal. So once again it is your choice as long as you are not doing it because you feel you have to reciprocate, give back to me in anyway, or it doesn't stops me from giving you your massage. You are more than welcome to touch me anytime I am within reach anywhere on my body as long as you are doing it for your own enjoyment and comfort. If I move away it is only because I need to move to continue the massage and you are welcome to touch me again when I am within reach.
Q; I have never had an orgasm before. Will I have an orgasm?
A: There are several different reasons that can keep women for experiencing an orgasm. Some are easier to work with than others and some women may have a few if not several different reasons in why they have never experienced an orgasm. With the exception of an extreme physical condition that prevents you from having an orgasm I know that men and women are created to orgasm and with some retraining and work anyone should be able to orgasm on a regular basis. I cannot say how many session it will take and it is very likely you may have to do some work (exercises, stretches, mediation, masturbation, change of perceptions, and such) on your own at home to achieve your goals. I have had some women who have never had an orgasm before orgasm during their first sessions, others it has taken a few sessions and a few are still working on it. Everyone is different and we all have different reasons for our blockages whether they are physical, emotional, energy based, spiritual or multiple reasons. It will vary with each conditions, as well as how often you come for a session and what work you do on your own. If someone says they can make any woman orgasm the first time they are lying or ignorant of the human body. We are far too complex and often there are multiple physical, emotional, mental, energy spiritual or combinations of blockages preventing us from reaching orgasm. Anyone saying they can make a woman orgasm the first time is just trying massage naked women and has no clue of what Tantra or Holistic Health is all about. They are only doing it for their own pleasure and not for the benefit of the woman.
Q: If you are nude do you get an erection?
A: While I very much enjoy what I do, making women feel special like they are and giving them great pleasure, it is all about my clients and not me. I am very focused on what I do. I am constantly reading you and how you and your body is responding to the massage, feeling for and working with your Chakras and different energy systems, and thinking about what I need to do or work with next. So my brain and muscles pretty much has dibs on my blood supply, lol. However as your sensual and sexual energy expands my Chakras and sexual energy is often stimulated by your's and I do sometimes get an erection from that sexual energy building. Also I am very likely to get an erection if you are touching me for I very much enjoy being touched. Finally if you are very vocal and responsive to the session that is very arousing to me knowing that you are enjoying it that much. But once again I am not just standing their looking at your body and touching you. I am working very hard and I take great pride in my work and providing the best experience for you which requires me to be focused, feeling with my hands, energy and thinking a great deal. If I do not get an erection or it comes and goes please know it has nothing to do with whether I find you attractive or sexy. I truly love the female form in all of it's shapes, colors and ages. I think there is nothing sexier than a woman who is open and free with her sensuality and sexuality regardless of her physical appearance. I am aroused by all women who are open, free, expressive and positive about themselves. But this is for your pleasure and arousal, not mine.
Q: Do you ever ejaculate during a session?
A: No I do not. There are many reasons. The first being that the session is for you and not me. Next in Tantra and Traditional Chinese Medicine men should not ejaculate that often. I talk about that more on my page The Healing Power of the Orgasm http://www.sensualtigerholisticarts.com/the-healing-power-of-the-orgasm.html. Of course there are also health and safety reasons. I have reached orgasm (without ejaculating) during sessions. It is usually when my client reaches orgasm I can feel their energy flow threw me and I orgasm as well. Remember orgasm and ejaculating are two separate things. Some women have said that they feel bad for me that they get to orgasm and I don't. Please know that I am very content and satisfied with what I do and I have no need to ejaculate during or after a session. There are other reasons but this should be enough information for now.
Q: Do I need to be shaved below?
A: No your yoni does not need to be shaved. If you are very busy it does make it a little challenging but I just adjust a few of my techniques and it is not a problem. Trimmed or smooth is easiest but you prefer to be natural then be natural.
Q: What was the sound you were making over my yoni and what does it do?
A: It is called Toning. Each chakra has a certain vibration. I do a tone with the same vibration over each chakra. You should feel the vibration resonate through you. The vibration helps to open the chakra and release any blockages as well and build and stimulate the energy. Depending on time and what I feel you need sometimes I only tone over the root chakra (yoni)
Q: May my husband/boyfriend come and watch?
A: Yes, it is common for husbands or boyfriends to come with their wife or girlfriend and is a beautiful experience for both of you. I only have two rules. 1. The husband/boyfriend does not talk unless the wife/girlfriend talks to them. This session is for the women to relax and be pampered. If she wants to talk or ask him something that is fine but I don't want her being disturbed. 2. The Husbands/boyfriends can move around the room and watch as long as they don't interfere with the massage. With those two rules being followed it can be a great experience for both of you. It works very well if the husband/boyfriend sits at the head of the table during the yoni massage and can caress, kiss, hold and show affection to his wife/girlfriend. After the session you two can lay or sit together until she is ready to get up and get dressed.
Q: I want to bring my wife in for a Tantric Massage but I want it to be a surprise. How does that work?
A: It doesn't work. Surprising your wife or girlfriend with a Tantric Massage and her not knowing exactly what to expect doesn't go like you think it will or like it does in a porn movie. I know this from experience and I have never had one surprise session that went very well. Even if they are ok with the idea of receiving a Tantric Massage most of the session is awkward and uncomfortable for them because they don't know what is going on and what to expect. So over all it's not a great experience. If they have seen me before then yes a surprise session would be great, or maybe, just maybe if you can convince me that you two have a very open relationship and this kind of thing is common for you two. But if not what i suggest is the two of you sit down together and read through my website. Talk about it together and ask me any questions with of you have and share this experience together.
Q: I can be REALLY loud and even though you kept telling me I could make moan and make sounds I was too embarrassed that I would too be loud, say something inappropriate or scream?
A: There would have been nothing to be embarrassed about. Moaning, breathing heavy, talking dirty and even screaming is all completely natural. This is a safe place to let go of inhibitions. There is nothing you can say or do that I haven't done myself or had a lover or client do. Holding back and worrying about what someone else is going to think is one of the worse things you can do. It takes you from feeling to thinking and disconnects you from the experience and all of the sensations of pleasure. It also shifts your energy from pleasure to worry or fear which are opposite vibrations than the vibration of an orgasm. Finally sounds are a vibration and energy of their own. Making sounds helps to stimulate and move the energy. It is all part of the orgasm process. So I encourage you to moan, make any sounds, say anything and be as loud as your body and energy tells you to be.